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Interview with Working Mother Melanie Weiler

Here at Tomato Pie, we’re celebrating the release of my biblical historical fiction ebook “Working Mother.” Today is the Feast of a working I didn’t meet until I went searching for Dominican working moms:  Blessed Villana di’Botti.  Bl. Villana balanced her duties to husband and family along with a great love of and devotion to the poor and disadvantaged in her neighborhood.  I see the same balance in an old friend of mine, Melanie Weiler.

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Melanie Weiler

Tell us a little bit about your family. 

My husband and I have been married for 23 years with two children. Our son is 15 and daughter is 13.

 

Imagine you’re at a dinner party.  Someone asks the question, “So, what do you do?”  What’s your answer?

I tell people that I manage a small nonprofit in Kennett Square, [PA], which consists of a food pantry and emergency assistance program. We focus on providing quality nutrition and securing resources for our clients to increase their self-sustainability.

 

How do you think God uses your job to help shape you into all He made you to be? 

I will always feel compelled to strive to be the person He made me to be. Through my experiences, I have been shown compassion and kindness that I know is His love. Every day I am given the opportunity to pay that forward to our brothers and sisters that are struggling. I have found the voice that we all have to speak for those that can’t speak for themselves.

When I took on this ministry, I didn’t realize how many in the community want to help, but feel powerless to do so. Through helping others, we find our humanity. I feel honored to be able to deliver that opportunity to many people and wish I could do more.

What benefits (besides the economical) have you seen to your family that are a direct result of your work away from home? 

The kids are at an age when our society sweeps them into a consumption-based system of values. At a time that friends and peers can easily influence their values, my children have grasped an understanding and appreciation for their blessings. They are well grounded.

I will never forget the surprise on my daughter’s face the first time she helped a person select groceries in the cupboard.  At first, she thought the person was another volunteer. She quickly learned that not only were they a client, but they were also experiencing homelessness.  Homelessness has a unfair stereotype that must be broken and at the age of 13, she understands and shares that with her peers.

How do you balance any guilty feelings you might have in the tension between your workplace and your homespace? 

After multiple attempts at being a stay-at-home parent, I realize that is just not in God’s plan for me. But I always felt that if I needed to be away from my family, the work needed to be meaningful. At this point in my career, I don’t feel particularly guilty. My husband and I have always managed a balance of housework and family time. Of course I couldn’t do my work without him.

What is one thing that you would ask the people in your life to do to support you more? 

Just to respect that I am compelled to do this work and to make allowances for that. And understand that my house may be a little dirty and know I don’t care as long as my family is happy.

 

Love it.  Thank you, Melanie!  

Are you a working mother?  So was (and is) the Blessed Mother!  If you enjoyed this interview and would like to celebrate working motherhood some more, please consider getting a copy of my $.99 historical fiction ebook, “Working Mother.”  

Interview with Working Mother Laura Nelson

Here at Tomato Pie, we’re celebrating the release of my biblical historical fiction ebook “Working Mother” by celebrating the working mothers among us.  Let’s meet working mother, Laura Nelson​!

 

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Laura Nelson

Tell us a little bit about your family. 

M​​other of three, ages ranging from 11-18 plus one small but mighty dog.

Imagine you’re at a dinner party.  Someone asks the question, “So, what do you do?”  What’s your answer?

I’m a preschool music and movement teacher but I’m also a blogger and speaker.

How do you think God uses your job to help shape you into all He made you to be? 

I believe that God gave me the gift for teaching others and that I can use those gifts with my preschoolers as well as with my readers and those that I speak to. By actively using those gifts, I think I become more of the person that God intended when He created me.

What benefits (besides the economical) have you seen to your family that are a direct result of your work away from home? 

Teaching has definitely made me a better parent.  I see examples of great parenting all the time through the parents at my school.  That coupled with the continuing education I complete yearly gived me a better understanding of the developing person at different stages of life.  Don’t tell my teens but preschoolers and teens aren’t very different.

My writing and speaking has deepened my spiritual life and made it more present in every part of my life.  As a mother, my attitudes and behaviors regarding my spiritual really affect my family.  It keeps the conversation going about our faith and how we live it.

How do you balance any guilty feelings you might have in the tension between your workplace and your homespace? 

​This is something that every mother struggles with-even those who don’t work outside of the home.  As my children (and I) have gotten older, I’ve learned to make choices and be at peace with them. The most important thing is to recognize and accept the fact that you can’t do everything.  Once you do that, it’s a lot easier to prioritize your time.

What is one thing that you would ask the people in your life to do to support you more? 

​ Be enthusiastic about what I do.  That enthusiasm shows me that you care about me beyond my role as “Mom” and that what I’m doing matters.

Thank you, Laura!   Readers, be sure to visit Laura at BOTH of her blogs: www.suburbansainthood.com and www.greenforgod.blogspot.com

Are you a working mother?  So was (and is) the Blessed Mother!  If you enjoyed this interview and would like to celebrate working motherhood some more, please consider getting a copy of my $.99 historical fiction ebook, “Working Mother.”