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This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

How is your first week of the new year? Maybe it’s time to find your cycle-breaking Beatitude. Image: Canva
  1. It’s not all maladaptive: 5 Valuable Life Skills Often Learned by Those with Complex PTSD.
  2. The Catholic Telegraph asks and responds to the question: Is Addiction Sinful?
  3. “And especially for a woman to be charged with these things.” One way the cycle of abuse gets perpetuated and minimized is by the lie that only men can abuse. At the BBC, here’s Ghislaine Maxwell: Survivors speak of relief after guilty verdict.
  4. With Mary as our Model, a Mother Finds Peace: thank you, Catholic Mom’s MaryBeth Eberhard.
  5. Here’s another idea on how to make mental health resources accessible: America’s first mental health barbershop movement.
  6. What is Future Faking?
  7. Ending with your weekly reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads (please, leave a review–it takes courage, but it helps the people who need the message find it), and don’t forget to link up with this month’s An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom.

Plain visual rather than AV this week, and posting it because it’s still Christmas in the Catholic world, but here is how the Rudolph movie should have ended.

Thanks for reading, listening & watching, fellow image-bearers.

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 31Dec2021

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Are you celebrating or just exploding? Maybe it’s time to find your cycle-breaking Beatitude. Image: Canva
  1. Speaking of fireworks, give a little thought to your local vets this NYE before you light up the fireworks. [Side note–if you have PTSD or CPTSD not connected to incendiary devices but you still experience fireworks as terrifying… that’s okay. Our bodies have been wired to survive by assuming worst case scenario. You don’t need to have active combat experience for it to be okay to give yourself a generous helping of self-compassion and maybe buy some noise-cancelling earphones or do something that will give you cozy feelings rather than terror feelings.]
  2. This week, I got to post at Catholic Mom about Christmas, Holy Saturday, and the joy and grief of watching the kids get ready to fly the nest: The Twin Sisters, Joy and Grief.
  3. Dr. Alexis Dallara-Marsh is at Catholic Mom writing about being alert for occasions of gratitude even in the midst of difficulty.
  4. Many of us have had to make (or are in the process of making) the painful decision to go no contact in an important relationship. The Good Men Project has reflections on questions we ask ourselves about What Happens When I Go No Contact.
  5. A huge part of trauma recovery happens when we learn to accept the present moment as it is without wanting to change it or rush off to the next supposedly better thing. AnnAliese Harry is at Catholic Mom writing about how to stay present in A Blink of an Eye.
  6. Anecdotally, it looks like there has been an overall decline in mental health since, oh, about 1973. Maybe having fewer people around to be our friends and support network, not to mention creating a culture where voices can be silenced forever for the crime of making a biological parent uncomfortable, is creating a greater culture of mental and emotional destruction, C-PTSD, and overall disconnection. Maybe support a culture of life?
  7. Ending with your weekly reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads (please, leave a review–it takes courage, but it helps the people who need the message find it), and don’t forget to link up with this month’s An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom.

Plain visual rather than AV this week, and posting it because it’s still Christmas in the Catholic world, but here is how the Rudolph movie should have ended.

Thanks for reading, listening & watching, fellow image-bearers.

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 24Dec2021

In case it’s news, Kelly Mantoan of Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum has decided that it’s time to put an end to the 7QT weekly linkup. As stated previously, however, I’m going to keep this going. So here ya go.

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Are you hiding or hunting, watching or sheltering? Maybe it’s time to find your cycle-breaking Beatitude. Image: Unsplash
  1. An oldie from me: Christmas is not supposed to be like this.
  2. Ashley Easter has 3 Reasons the Holidays are Triggering. Good for survivors and their supporters alike.
  3. Catholic Mom’s Susan Ciancio writes about Finding Joy in Difficult Holidays.
  4. Nicole Johnson is at Catholic Mom, too, about The Need to Be Heard.
  5. Say no to these 7 behaviors over at Psych Central.
  6. For those praying over going no contact with immature family members, especially as a result of their behavior around the holidays, here’s another piece from Psych Central, How and when to cut ties.
  7. Ending with your weekly reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads (please, leave a review–it takes courage, but it helps the people who need the message find it), and don’t forget to link up with this month’s An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom.

For our AV, I leave you with a beautiful stairwell “Ave Maria.” This season, I wish you much unexpected beauty.

Thanks for reading, listening & watching, fellow image-bearers.

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 19Nov2021

Do you need to see the light in your darkness? Maybe it’s time to find your cycle-breaking Beatitude. Image: Unsplash
  1. Patrice Fagnant-Macarthur is at Catholic Mom with a review of Catholic therapist Tommy Tighe’s new book, St. Dymphna’s Playbook, which shares a title with his podcast.
  2. Surprise! University of Georgia researchers find connection between childhood trauma and opioid addiction.
  3. If you have heard of someone who has gone no contact with an emotionally immature parent or other family of origin, and you just don’t understand how any one could do that to family… read The Missing Missing Reasons.
  4. You’re not alone: Compulsive showering as a trauma coping mechanism is a thing.
  5. This may be a repeat, but I know I have some new readers (::waves::), but here are 7 Things People Who Grew Up Unloved Need As an Adult.
  6. Looking for support as you face holiday gatherings with emotionally immature people? Please visit my Resources page.
  7. Ending with your weekly reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads (please, leave a review–it takes courage, but it helps the people who need the message find it), and don’t forget to link up with this month’s An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom.

For our AV, if you need to see your own virtue after coming out of developmental & complex trauma, check out Cinema Therapy’s episode on Katniss of The Hunger Games.

Thanks for reading, listening & watching, fellow image-bearers.

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 19Nov2021

In case it’s news, Kelly Mantoan of Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum has decided that it’s time to put an end to the 7QT weekly linkup. As stated previously, however, I’m going to keep this going. So here ya go.

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Are you hiding or hunting, watching or sheltering? Maybe it’s time to find your cycle-breaking Beatitude. Image: Unsplash
  1. FemCatholic has a salient piece for those of us who medicated our trauma with eating behaviors that impacted our health: Fat Bias is Causing Women Like Me to Be Misdiagnosed.
  2. Depression and Trauma: What’s the link?
  3. For anyone who’s chosen to protect themselves through going no contact with a past abuser in this age of social media, a writer at The Verge asks Should Abuse Survivors Have to Disappear from the Internet?
  4. When you’ve been in as much pain as the average complex trauma survivor has been, it’s easy to pour our energy into fixing all the pain we see. Rose Folsom at Catholic Mom writes about How to Listen Like Jesus.
  5. Waiting for justice. Waiting to be heard. Waiting to be safely loved. What it means to wait for the Lord is Leonard J. DeLorenzo’s topic at OSV.
  6. “Think you might be overdoing it here, Dad?” “Russ, when was the last time I overdid anything?” As we ramp into Christmas, here’s an old piece from The Onion (yes, That Onion) about the dangers of overfunctioning as illustrated in National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation.
  7. Ending with your weekly reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads (please, leave a review–it takes courage, but it helps the people who need the message find it), and don’t forget to link up with this month’s An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom.

For our AV, here are some tips for holiday parties! (Psst, please follow me on TikTok for wry Catholic mental health humor & the occasional serious support.)

Thanks for reading, listening & watching, fellow image-bearers.

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 19Nov2021

In case it’s news, Kelly Mantoan of Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum has decided that it’s time to put an end to the 7QT weekly linkup. As stated last week, however, I’m going to keep this going. So here ya go.

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Is it sunrise or sunset on some cycles in your life? Maybe it’s time to find your cycle-breaking Beatitude. Image: Unsplash
  1. Kelly Guest has an AMAZING piece at Catholic Mom on mental health: Thank God for the miracle we didn’t ask for.
  2. Another Catholic Mom piece: Johanna Stamps with Self-care vs. God-care.
  3. Trauma survivors are prone to doing all sorts of painful things in order not to feel the pain of abandonment. Here are 4 Tips to Overcome Fear of Abandonment.
  4. Good Men Project has 5 Lessons I Learned from Surviving Child Abuse.
  5. 3 Ways Unresolved Trauma Derails Relationships, thanks to The Good Men Project.
  6. Oldie but goodie: Melissa Presser at Catholic Mom with her story on rediscovering the person God made her to be–through dance–with And One
  7. Ending with your weekly reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads, and don’t forget to link up with this month’s An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom.

Skipping the AV this week due to time constraints: I’m working on having some Thanksgiving/holiday prep content for compulsive overeaters. Have a great weekend.

Thanks for reading, listening & watching, fellow image-bearers.

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 12Nov2021

So I don’t know if you’ve heard, but Kelly Mantoan of Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum has decided that it’s time to put an end to the 7QT weekly linkup.

So while there will no longer be a place for me to link up this weekly list of resources, articles, and thoughtful content for those of us who live at the places where Catholicism and trauma healing overlap… I’m inclined to keep it going.

Why?

Because over the past few weeks, I was wondering if it might be time for me to move my time resources away from this particular item on the to do list, and someone messaged me privately to say how much she was getting out of these posts, especially in terms of making sense of her past. So at least for now, I’m going to keep posting these as long as my schedule allows. God bless you for reading.

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Ready for growth? Maybe it’s time to find your cycle-breaking Beatitude. Image: Unsplash
  1. One of the things I hear the most from people who hear my story is, “But I don’t have trauma.” Well, PTSD is not uncommon.
  2. A question I address in All Things New and that a LOT of family dysfunction survivors ask every day: Should your narcissistic parents have access to your kids?
  3. Trust in God can be such a HUGE barrier for trauma survivors. Laura Nelson at Catholic Mom writes about lessons in humility and trust from her GPS.
  4. Here’s a lovely piece out of Cincinati about community resources and law enforcement working together to build relationships that provide healing for adverse childhood experiences.
  5. Hey, trauma survivors affected by depression: Pope Francis is asking us all to pray for you this month.
  6. If you’ve been reading these posts for any length of time, you may have noticed my interest in the topic of moral injury, especially the perpetrator type. Here’s a great piece that describes moral injury and emerging options on what to do about it.
  7. Ending with your weekly reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads, and don’t forget to link up with this month’s An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom.

This week’s media: I received another chance to talk with Anne DeSantis of Patchwork Heart Ministries & Fiat Ministry Network. This one is for last week’s episode of Journeys in Faith, and we talk a little bit about All Things New, a little bit about my reversion story, and a little bit about the forthcoming Filled With Good: Theology of the Body for Food Addicts.

Thanks for reading, listening & watching, fellow image-bearers.

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 5Nov2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Ready for a change? Maybe it’s time to find your cycle-breaking Beatitude. Image: Unsplash
  1. 7 Things Someone Who Grew Up Unloved Needs As an Adult
  2. A short & sweet primer on 5 Types of PTSD (which one is your favorite?)
  3. The reason you’re codependent is
  4. Anxious, avoidant, anxious-avoidant… Wanna change attachment styles?
  5. There are true and false crosses? What’s the difference?
  6. What lessons can a blind cat teach us about sudden changes? Christine Johnson at Catholic Mom shares.
  7. Ending with your weekly reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads, and don’t forget to link up with this month’s An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom.

This week’s media: I took on distraction in prayer for the October 21 Catholic Mom Facebook Live. How do you handle distraction during prayer? Here are my helpful hints!

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 29Oct2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Looking for a sign? Maybe it’s time to find your cycle-breaking Beatitude. Image: Unsplash
  1. Compassion shot: Adults with PTSD have lower brain connectivity.
  2. More deeply on that note: People With Neurological Conditions Often Experienced Childhood Trauma.
  3. Moral injury is when hurt people hurt people: The anguish of unintentional killing.
  4. I’m a big promoter of finding groups of supportive voices to help you rebuild your relational self. Here’s a piece rating (in that writer’s opinion) The 6 Best Online PTSD Support Groups.
  5. Another study on the impact of Adverse Childhood Experiences on chronic disease in middle age: read it here.
  6. Ending with your weekly reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads, and don’t forget to link up with this month’s An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom.

This week’s media: Dr. Ramaini on a little-mentioned type of emotional abuse: future faking.

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 15Oct2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Looking for a sign? Maybe it’s time to find your cycle-breaking Beatitude. Image: Unsplash
  1. Ginny Kochis has gold at Catholic Mom: 4 Things No One Tells You About Therapy.
  2. While I didn’t have memory flushing myself, I can definitely relate to fellow trauma survivor Melissa Presser’s piece at Catholic Mom on God’s Plan A.
  3. I know I’ve been a part of the culture of labeling people “toxic,” but I’m trying to get away from that, because… dang, everybody deserves hope. Here’s a piece at Verywell Mind about what to do if you suspect you may have Narcissistic Personality Disorder–because there are people with NPD who do recognize that they are the cause of their own suffering but just. can’t. stop.
  4. “The way I was treated by police was worse.” More on why people don’t report abuse.
  5. Helping traumatized children in the here and now is a thing. Janelle Peregoy is at Catholic Mom with 7 Ways to Support Foster Families.
  6. I’m hoping to catch The Starling. Sr. Nancy Usselman has a review at Catholic Mom.
  7. Ending with your weekly reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads, and don’t forget to link up with this month’s An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom.

This week’s media: Have you been called difficult for not taking the narcissist’s bait? I sure have…

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!