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7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 18Jun2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Feeling a little bit Ferris Wheel? May I suggest you find your rut-busting Beatitude? Image: Unsplash
  1. Father’s Day is this weekend. What a Father We Have in Saint Joseph!
  2. On that note, if you’re feeling tender and alone around Father’s Day, let’s be alone together. Join me tomorrow, Saturday, June 19 at 3pm Eastern US Time for a Google Meet: Dad’s Day Dessert Party. All emotions welcome. Email me for the join link.
  3. Trauma got you feeling like you have ADD? ADD got you feeling traumatized? Your feelings are–surprise!–valid, and science says so.
  4. I’m aware of the irony of someone giving you seven links to visit regarding trauma and toxic relationships, but here are 10 Signs of Toxic Self-awareness & How to Escape This Rabbit Hole.
  5. It’s a Lenten article, but as Catholics, we know how to find the Lent in Ordinary Time–or we know sometimes that Lent finds us no matter the liturgical season: Conversion Begins With Healing.
  6. Deanna Bartalini is at Catholic Mom with a great reminder: Our Children Are Not Our Own.
  7. Ending with the official announcement that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads, and don’t forget to link up with An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom for July 7.

For this week’s media, I invite you to listen to my discussion with Kim Cameron-Smith on the Gentle Catholic Parenting podcast.

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 11Jun2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Happy Feast of the Sacred Heart. Image: Unsplash
  1. Control can be a huge problem for trauma survivors. Caitlan Rangel at Catholic Mom reminds us Surrender Starts With Listening.
  2. Gotta love stories where people help others break free from abuse. Read here about one teen’s effort to help survivors escape domestic violence.
  3. Christina Mayeux talks about all the ways we can go to Joseph, model for husbands and families.
  4. Soooo much gaslighting happens in dysfunctional families. OSV Newsweekly has “What is truth?” A Lesson on Integrity for Children and Families.
  5. Struggle with anger? You are very much not alone. Read Jen Schuermann talk about The Night That God Took My Anger.
  6. Have you taken the quiz yet? Find your rut-busting Beatitude and get your free custom-chosen chapter of the book handily mentioned in the item below…
  7. Ending with a cheerful reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for preorder.

I also had the opportunity to do a Facebook Live with Catholic Mom about St. Joseph: Father to the Father-wounded. Watch at this link if the embed doesn’t show up below lol

https://fb.watch/625EsEzk9N/

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 4Jun2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Walking through this together. Image via via Unsplash.
  1. Chantal Howard has an AMAZING piece at Catholic Mom about how childhood trauma can so powerfully affect the afflicted’s ability to hear God’s voice that lives can be lost to suicide. Read her family’s powerful, painful, and yet hopeful and healing encounter with this tragedy at Suicide, Grief, and the Sonrise.
  2. More from Charlene Bader at Catholic Mom: Sorrow, Prophecy, & the Desire to Be Affirmed
  3. Verily has a piece on the tie between trauma and porn addiction.
  4. Did I already share this one? I may have, so forgive me for the re-share, and forgive me for not having Disney+ yet and thus not having seen WandaVision yet: Wanda Maximoff, Trauma, and the Power of Dissociation.
  5. If you’re looking for some validation, here ya go: Damage gone by emotionally immature parents can have a long term impact on children.
  6. Have you taken the quiz yet? Find your rut-busting Beatitude and get your free custom-chosen chapter of the book handily mentioned in the item below…
  7. Ending with a cheerful reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for preorder.

Let’s sign off with Father Mike Schmitz on Setting Boundaries for Yourself and Others.

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 28May2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Happy Memorial Day Weekend, US friends. Image via Unsplash.
  1. More from Charlene Bader in her series of the Seven Sorrows: Sorrow, Escape, and the Desire to Be Safe.
  2. Blessed Is She has piece from back in April (I know, I’m behind) on Finding and Fighting For Freedom From Addiction.
  3. Just because trauma and addiction feed each other, here’s another addiction-related bit: Nonprofit Uses Fitness to Help in Addiction Recovery.
  4. Divorce is considered an Adverse Childhood Experience. Are you familiar with ministry for adult children of divorce? Read here about Life-giving Wounds.
  5. I’m hopeful for the cultural shift that is putting resources into answering called-for emergencies with mental health help rather than police action.
  6. Have you taken the quiz yet? Find your rut-busting Beatitude and get your free custom-chosen chapter of the book handily mentioned in the item below…
  7. Ending with a cheerful reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for preorder.

Finally, ending with an audio file this week: Dr. Greg Bottaro of the Catholic Psych Institute has a great new podcast called Being Human. Here’s an episode I found very helpful: A Look at Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 21May2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Happy Pentecost Weekend Image via Unsplash.
  1. The ultimate trauma is loss of our earthly lives. All the things we do to avoid the fear of this inevitability, however, often lead us down paths to living deaths. Rebecca Martin is at Catholic Mom with fiction to help us: Reading Memento Mori.
  2. Another great installment in Charlene Bader’s series on Mary’s Seven Sorrows: Sorrow, Suffering, and the Desire to be Touched. She includes an acknowledgement towards those of us who have been more harmed than helped by touch in this life.
  3. A lot of trauma survivors use busyness as a maladaptive coping mechanism (this is me, raising my hand). Ginny Kochis gives us a great post in “You Aren’t Lazy: There’s No Shame is Rest.”
  4. “Blessed are the meek” means that God has blessings in store for those who know when to say no. Meg Hunter-Kilmer is at Alateia with Saints Who Had to Set Boundaries.
  5. Margaret Rose Realy has a poignant and brutally honest piece at Catholic Mom: Hoping to Attach to Our Mother of Hope.
  6. Have you taken the quiz yet? Find your rut-busting Beatitude and get your free custom-chosen chapter of the book handily mentioned in the item below…
  7. Ending with a cheerful reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for preorder.

It doesn’t want to embed here, but for this week’s audiovisual, I’m delighted to share with you my Facebook Live over at Catholic Mom, where I talked about Mary, Mother to the Mother-wounded.

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 14May2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Image via Unsplash.
  1. Catholic Mom’s Colleen Millette reminds us to say “You Got This!” But not to whom you’d expect…
  2. Inclusion does not equal endorsement, since I haven’t read this, but the title is certainly intriguing: How to Turn Your Child Into a Doormat.
  3. Is it saintly to be a doormat? Ask these saints who had to set boundaries.
  4. Well, I certainly have been feeling this one since being diagnosed with osteoarthritis for the first time at age 15 when I was a size 9: Adversity in childhood may lead to early aging in women.
  5. Reaching into my backlog of bookmarks to the first article I saw on a new trend at the crossroads of public health and public safety: Denver sent mental health help, not police, to hundreds of calls.
  6. Have you taken the quiz yet? Find your rut-busting Beatitude and get your free custom-chosen chapter of the book handily mentioned in the item below…
  7. Ending with a cheerful reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for preorder.

Let’s share more Cinema Therapy this week. Language warning: Extreme isolation in THE MARTIAN.

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 7May2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Image via Unsplash.
  1. The low-hanging fruit for a post that goes live the Friday before Mother’s Day in the US: Mother’s Day is Hard When Your Mom Is Toxic.
  2. On that note, how do you bring joy in a world where your dreams don’t come true? Maria Gallagher at Catholic Mom shares
  3. Criminal justice needs a better understanding of childhood trauma, in case it wasn’t obvious.
  4. Cassie Evert at Catholic Mom is talking about how we can instill hope in our children.
  5. Dr Han Ren on TikTok has a great, brief description of the difference between feeling shame and being shamed.
  6. De Yarrison at Catholic Mom explains how delving into God’s truth can help us heal our unhealthy habits of mind in The Bold Choice to Believe.
  7. Ending with a cheerful reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for preorder.

And I know it’s not Christmas, nor is it Father’s Day, but let’s just take a moment with Cinema Therapy to celebrate the right way to support the mom in your life.

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 30Apr2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Image via Unsplash.
  1. Let’s start off with our most awesome Dr. Ramani, talking how to heal from narcissistic relationship when there is no justice (at least not the earthly kind).
  2. Elizabeth Reardon is at Catholic Mom, sharing about the grace of vulnerability.
  3. That said, one thing about vulnerability is that it’s not always met back with vulnerability. Kerry Campbell is also at Catholic Mom, talking about how things in this fallen world are not guaranteed to grow.
  4. When it comes to encouraging vulnerability of heart, though, one Denver non-profit is breaking a new trail for men’s mental health with Fishing the Good Fight.
  5. While we’re on the subject of men, Fr. Ryan O’Neill is over at Those Catholic Men, talking the oft neglected masculine genius.
  6. Enemies: we all have them. How can we possibly love them? Christine Johnson over at Catholic Mom writes on love is patient, love is kind.
  7. Ending with a cheerful reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for preorder.

Loving Cinema Therapy, folks, especially when they talk Firefly.

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 23Apr2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Image via Unsplash.
  1. Plagued intrusive thoughts? Overthinking? Anxious ruminations? RAIN on your problems!
  2. On that note, and I feel like I’ve shared this here before, but there are enough new people following (::waves hi::) that I don’t mind re-sharing Carrie Soukup’s article at Catholic Mom about how our inner voices can be critic or coach.
  3. And how exactly do we let go? Sherry Hayes-Pierce is at Catholic Mom with her story about Leaving Our Prayers at the Foot of the Cross.
  4. So… mindfulness… it’s gotten a twisted rap in Catholic circles, because there are plenty of well-meaning folks selling a new age version, which, yeah, isn’t great for the soul. When it’s a matter of being present with God in our minds and bodies, it’s a great trauma tool. Here’s an article about the physical effects and uses of simple mindfulness.
  5. Dr. Janet E. Smith is over at the National Catholic Register, asking, “What is suitable compensation for a life of trauma?
  6. Christine Johnson at Catholic Mom breaks down an honest way to love your enemies.
  7. Ending with a cheerful reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for preorder.

Put on your dancing shoes, my friends. Did you hear the good news? There’s people, people running just like you.

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 16Apr2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Happy Easter Friday. Image via Unsplash.
  1. What happens when narcissism meets authenticity? Dr. Ramani shares.
  2. So much of family abuse and dysfunction is the result of people choosing themselves over relationship. Charlene Bader is at Catholic Mom talking Mary’s Third Sorrow, the loss of the Child Jesus in the temple, in light of our basic human desire to be chosen.
  3. I have read exactly none of these, but it’s heartening to read that others are open to the idea that reading fiction about abuse can be validating, & validating is healing. Here are 8 Books Featuring People Coming to Terms With an Abusive Childhood.
  4. A Denver Nonprofit is Using Fishing to Connect Men with Mental Health Resources.
  5. Trauma Bonding Is the Emotional Cycle That Keeps People in Abusive Relationships. How Does It Start?
  6. Carrie Soukup stumbles upon a mindset of triumph and prayer as she “plays” football with “Your Inner Voice: Critic or Coach?”
  7. Ending with a cheerful reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for preorder.

Coping with trauma? Maybe you have something to learn from River Tam, Mal’s crew, and Cinema Therapy.

No power in the ‘verse can stop us.

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!