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7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 20Nov2020

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Fall colors. Image via Unsplash.
  1. This is pretty interesting: Turns out there’s a higher occurrence of asthma in women of color who have survived Adverse Childhood Experiences. This surprises me exactly none. Asthma, after all, is about being unable to get out all that needs to be released.
  2. I mean, also color me not surprised, but Childhood trauma especially common among rural women with substance abuse disorders. We need to feel good. Even Aquinas says so. If we get bad instead of good from relationship, we will go to substances (including adrenaline/dopamine/etc.) Addiction is just self-medication for trauma, usually the relational sort. It’s that simple.
  3. Self-loathing’s Quandary “Like the neighbor left on the road by the robbers (Luke 10:30) I fear seeing my own nakedness, and being laid bare to others. I fear my vulnerability and of being exposed and helpless beyond my own ability. I fear the debilitating attack that will leave me repulsive and rejected by others — and myself.”
  4. Unsure how to talk to a domestic violence survivor? Here’s some tips. My question: if you’re survivor, do you feel validated by this article?
  5. 7 Hurts That Never Heal and 3 Ways to Cope
  6. In Be Prepared, Rachel Watkins talks about tools to have in your spiritual emergency kit. I think being prepared to face triggers can fall under a spiritual emergency.
  7. Delighting as God’s Children is a good one for those of us who struggle to just have, well, fun.

So the last gospel journaling prompts for trauma survivors went out last week. If you missed it, please contact me to get caught up AND to receive a little present I’m hoping to send out to all the prompt subscribers next week (hint: an Advent calendar like nobody’s ever done before).

Let me know how I may pray for you? Meanwhile, make sure you give Kelly & the SQT crew a look see.

Signing off with the unofficial trauma bond survivor’s anthem:

BTW, I have a little playlist of self-care songs, and that’s one of them. Can you recommend any others?

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 13Nov2020

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Gettin’ kinda frosty. Image via Unsplash.
  1. McCarrick whistleblower: At last, somebody was going to pay attention to what I had to say. Heads up: I have not read the McCarrick report. I know it would just be too triggering for me. I did read this article, though, and I wanted to share it here because it’s a reminder of how much any truth-teller is up against when it comes to speaking up about abuse. Do you want that to change? Then if someone discloses abuse to you, do something right away. Call the police. You can’t get in trouble for voicing a concern, but you can get in eternal trouble for turning a blind eye.
  2. A sexual abuse survivor finds a ‘reckoning’ in McCarrick report. This article gives you a sense of how survivors, no matter who abused us, walk in the same shadows.
  3. Also on OSV Newsweekly, yours truly got to interview Jim Wahlberg, Marge Fenelon, Scott Weeman and Sonja Corbitt about surviving the holiday gathering season when your family isn’t so healthily connected.
  4. Come, follow me: How to become a parent-shepherd.
  5. Moral injury: it’s not PTSD but some combat veterans find it just as devastating. Why am I including a link to an article about combat veterans? Because of moral injury: it’s my (admittedly uneducated) opinion that moral injury is what holds unrepentant child abusers back from the gift of repentance. That makes it worth studying from a family trauma survivor standpoint.
  6. The Fury of the Fatherless explores how the breakdown of the family, and especially the rise of absentee fatherhood, may be contributing to the current climate of unrest, specific to clashes between diametrically opposed groups that create a sense of family based on radical identity politics. Linking here because it’s another way to see the importance of healing family trauma; if we don’t, it will set fire to our homes and livelihoods.
  7. Want gospel journaling prompts for trauma survivors? If you missed it, please sign up here to get yours: there’s just one more coming out shortly.

Also, let me know how I may pray for you? Meanwhile, make sure you give Kelly & the SQT crew a look see.

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 6Nov2020

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Visit the cemeteries this month, people, and get them that plenary. Image via Unsplash.
  1. We are heading into the holiday season, when people want to give you the gift of their lack of meekness. Don’t set boundaries other people can honor: set boundaries you can honor.
  2. Childhood trauma: The kids are not alright, and part of the reason might be epigenetics.
  3. People die with this secret” is about a restaurant owner and author opening up places where sexual abuse survivors can find safe connection and healing.
  4. Having trouble understanding emotional responsibility? Responsibility means “ability to respond.”
  5. In a fitting post for the wake of Hallowtide, The Spiral Strega writes, “You can forgive someone and demand accountability from them, pursue legal action against them, or even speak publicly about how they have harmed you.” Read more in Rosemary for Remembrance: Ancestral Trauma.
  6. And for those of you worried about repeating cycles, Accidental Talmudist has this article on Albert Goering–yes, related to that Goering, called “A Tale of Two Brothers.”
  7. Want gospel journaling prompts for trauma survivors? If you missed it, please sign up here to get yours free through the end of November, 20202.

Also, let me know how I may pray for you? Meanwhile, make sure you give Kelly & the SQT crew a look see.

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 3(1)Oct2020

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Memento mori, people. Image via Unsplash.
  1. Jennifer Scheuerman over at Catholic Mom writes about listening to God’s voice over all the negative self-talk we tend to give ourselves in her piece “A Battle for Freedom.”
  2. So there’s long been (like, in some form for over a century) much talk about PTSD in veterans post-service. I love this idea of how we need to start talking about Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) and PTSD before our servicemen and -women enlist: “Start focusing on veterans’ health before they enlist.”
  3. I know firsthand how self-soothing from trauma responses tends to foment addiction. Here’s an interesting study about PTSD, alcohol abuse, and male vs. female rats: PTSD and alcohol abuse go hand-in-hand, but males and females exhibit symptoms differently
  4. It never hurts to review 6 Tips for Ending a Cycle of Unhealthy Relationships.
  5. Full disclosure: “pinning” this here so I can read it later or, perhaps less likely, get one of you to read it and comment with your thoughts, thus motivating me. Moral Recovery and Ethical Leadership looks like an assessment of how very human leaders may make drastically human mistakes, experience moral injury, and then recover from that injury.
  6. Want gospel journaling prompts for trauma survivors? If you missed it, please sign up here to get yours free through the end of November, 20202.
  7. I also invite you to join in some discussion over on my Broken Grown-up Nation Facebook page.

I’d like to leave you with this thought. For those of us who’ve already parented from a place of pain rather than recovery, allow me to encourage you: it’s not too late.

It’s never too late. Begin where you are.

Also, let me know how I may pray for you? Meanwhile, make sure you give Kelly & the SQT crew a look see.

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 23Oct2020

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

The monarchs are flying over our neighborhood these days. Image via Unsplash.
  1. Laura Patangan over at Catholic Mom writes about hurts, seen and unseen, in “Tree Trauma and Forward Thinking.”
  2. Chantal Howard, also over at Catholic Mom, writes about how little we parents actually do control in her piece “Let the Weeds and the Wheat Grow Together.”
  3. Increasing sleep leads to better PTSD outcomes. It’s worth noting.
  4. I wrote a memoir about abuse. That doesn’t mean you’re entitled to every detail.” As an abuse survivor with a book on the way, this article gave me lots of food for thought. As a reader, you may gain some food for thought as well.
  5. Why unloved daughters normalize and rationalize abuse.”
  6. Changing up the schedule a bit, since it looks like gospel journal page subscribers take a week or so to get to their emails, So, next Sunday’s gospel journaling page for trauma survivors goes out before midnight. If you missed it, please sign up here to get yours free through the end of November, 20202.
  7. I also invite you to join in some discussion over on my Broken Grown-up Nation Facebook page.

Meanwhile, here’s a printable! Sort of. Not mine. If you can credit the original source, please comment with it below.

Do you have anything to add to this list? I’d add “Maintenance of relationship between parent-child.”

Also, let me know how I may pray for you? Meanwhile, make sure you give Kelly & the SQT crew a look see.

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 16Oct2020

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Happy Feast of St. Margaret Mary Alacoque, Apostle of the Sacred Heart. Image via Unsplash.
  1. Forbes Magazine has an article on how adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) impact adult health, especially in terms of inflammatory disease: 5 Ways Trauma and Poverty Affect Childhood Development.
  2. New here and interested in an ultra-quick primer on trauma & PTSD? Here’s Fight, flight or freeze.
  3. Can anyone relate to this one? Dealing with toxic family relationships can be a lifelong challenge.
  4. Speaking of dealing, here are 25 Amazing COPING SKILLS Everybody Needs.
  5. If you’re wondering how journaling can help you… watch this! I love one of the comments on this video: “I definitely think everyone should keep a journal, especially men since we are emotionally told to not express our feelings. It has helped me a lot every time i write it feels like i close an app or close all the extra tabs in my mind.” Close those tabs, my friends! Close ’em!
  6. Looking for some help getting started with journaling? Well, I am here to help, my sibling. This Sunday’s gospel journaling page for trauma survivors goes out before midnight. If you missed it, please sign up here to get yours free through the end of November, 20202.
  7. I also invite you to join in some discussion over on my Broken Grown-up Nation Facebook page.

Last week I threw some soothing worship piano via Dappy T Keys Worship your way. Wasn’t that lovely and peaceful? This week you get my workout playlist du jour. Word of caution: I haven’t watched most of these videos, because I just listen to the music while I’m pumping very small amounts of iron.

Anybody else have some non sequiturs in your listening repertoire?

Also, let me know how I may pray for you? Meanwhile, make sure you give Kelly & the SQT crew a look see.

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 9Oct2020

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum, better late than never.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Moody Image via Unsplash.
  1. Catholics for Family Peace is having a webinar for Promoting Peaceful Relationships at Home next week. It’s free–my favorite price!
  2. Catholic Mom repackaged one of my old articles for their My Rosary Story series for October, the month of the Rosary. See it here: Rocky Roots
  3. Catholic in Recovery has another in their series on Attachment, Addiction, and Psychology. Check it out.
  4. Did I already share the Restore the Glory podcast here? Probably, but I need to come up with 7 takes, so, here ya go.
  5. Embracing and Detaching from Suffering as the Loved One of an Addict is a good message for anyone affected by another’s addiction (also over at CIR).
  6. This Sunday’s gospel journaling page for trauma survivors goes out before midnight. If you missed it, please sign up here to get yours free through the end of November, 20202.
  7. I also invite you to join in some discussion over on my Broken Grown-up Nation Facebook page.

Made it to 7! Phew, that was like pulling teeth! What are you up to these days? Not pulling teeth, I assume… Hey, if you need some soothing worship piano music playing in the background while you journal, I’m really enjoying Dappy T Keys Worship. Now, you can, too.

Also, let me know how I may pray for you? Meanwhile, make sure you give Kelly & the SQT crew a look see.

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 2Oct2020

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum, better late than never.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Image via Unsplash. Happy Feast of the Guardian Angels.
  1. In “Reaching Out for Help,” Courtney Vallejo asks, “Why do we wait until we are desperate to ask for help?” [Short answer from me: it’s a trauma response rooted in survival-perfectionism, but go read her post anyway.]
  2. Trauma survivors have a lot to grieve. I found “To Mourn Neither Maniacally Nor Hopelessly but in Christ” by Adam A. J. Deville a nice reminder on the importance of ritual in grief-sharing.
  3. I get a lot of good stuff from The Undone Mama. You might, too.
  4. I know I share Dr. Ramani stuff on here a lot. I love her energy. I also love the lower-key, gentle-parent style of Les Carter. Here’s one of my favorites from him: The “I Release You” Response to a Narcissist.
  5. This Sunday’s gospel journaling page for trauma survivors goes out before midnight. If you missed it, please sign up here to get yours free through the end of November, 20202.
  6. I also invite you to join in some discussion over on my Broken Grown-up Nation Facebook page.
  7. Finally, Boundaries Cuteness for ya from Introvert Doodles:

Also, let me know how I may pray for you? Meanwhile, make sure you give Kelly & the SQT crew a look see.

What are your struggles with setting and keeping good boundaries?

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 25Sep2020

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum, better late than never.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Image via Unsplash
  1. Virtual Catholic Healing Conference is this weekend! Maybe I’ll “see” you there? I don’t know. I have no idea how this works…
  2. Give voice to the pain: New Catholic ministry seeks to help adult children of divorce” shares the ministry of Life Giving Wounds. Divorce causes its own trauma.
  3. Living With Clinical Anxiety by Ginny Kochis over at Catholic Mom offers a fresh look at that Padre Pio quote, “Pray, hope, and don’t worry.”
  4. Dr. Ramani has another good one, this one about the dangers of toxic positivity.
  5. Need some more validation from Dr. Ramani? Here you go: How to Think About a Narcissistic Parent.
  6. This Sunday’s gospel journaling page for trauma survivors just went out. If you missed it, please sign up here to get yours free through the end of November, 20202.
  7. I also invite you to join in some discussion over on my Broken Grown-up Nation Facebook page.

Also, let me know how I may pray for you? Meanwhile, make sure you give Kelly & the SQT crew a look see.

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 18-19Sep2020

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum, better late than never.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Saying goodbye to the summer flowers, via Unsplash
  1. Jennifer Fitz has a piece on “Parish Mental Health Support 101” over at the register. As usual with her writing, Fitz breaks a large beast down into perfectly attainable chunks.
  2. Dr. Bob Schuts and Jake Khym, a pair of well-spoken Catholic mental health professionals, have a new-ish podcast, Restore the Glory. I’m loving their take on the interface between Theology of the Body and trauma healing. You might, too.
  3. How do you respond to anxiety: overfunctioning or underfunctioning? I’m the former, but I’m working on it.
  4. Working the steps during a pandemic can be tough. This article has some basic tips, if you need them.
  5. Quarter Joe of Catholic in Recovery had an article post back in June about the dangers of self-isolation, especially in reference to family trauma: It Is Not Good for the Man to Be Alone
  6. This Sunday’s gospel journaling page for trauma survivors just went out. If you missed it, please sign up here to get yours free through the end of November, 20202.
  7. I also invite you to join in some discussion over on my Broken Grown-up Nation Facebook page.

Also, let me know how I may pray for you? Meanwhile, make sure you give Kelly & the SQT crew a look see.