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7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 23Jul2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Are you on the right path? Maybe it’s time to find your rut-busting Beatitude. Image: Unsplash
  1. Chances are that, if you’re reading this, you could write your own article on 3 Ways Unresolved Trauma Can Derail Your Relationships.
  2. This one’s mine: Parenting Tombs and Gardens at Catholic Mom is about parenting the rightfully emotionally immature while simultaneously healing from the effects of having been parented by the wrongfully emotionally immature.
  3. What is self-care, anyway? Learn from Rose Folsom and a bean sprout.
  4. Even the secular world is celebrating the healthy gifts of detachment.
  5. Betrayal trauma is a thing. Elaine Sinnott gets real at Catholic Mom about The Epidemic of Porn in Marriages.
  6. Loving-kindness meditation may reduce veterans’ PTSD symptoms?
  7. Ending with your weekly reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads, and don’t forget to link up with this month’s An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom.

This week’s media? Father Mike Schmitz has a lot of good things to say–this is about setting boundaries! Isn’t his thumbnail picture the best? So relatable.

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 16Jul2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Look! It’s a Mt. of Caramel! Happy Feast of Our Lady! Is there a Beatitude that would make your life a little sweeter?
Maybe it’s time to find your rut-busting Beatitude. Image: Unsplash
  1. Trauma of any kind is “not supposed to happen.” Nicole Johnson tells her story at Catholic Mom.
  2. Need strength? Alateia has you covered.
  3. Red flags or green ones? The Good Men Project has 4 Signs You’re in a Toxic Relationship.
  4. The Pittsburgh Catholic has a piece on Catholic at Home: Faith & Mental Health.
  5. It’s from May, but every month can be Mary’s Month if you try hard enough. Patrice Fagnant-Macarthur is at Catholic Mom with Mary Can Help Us Forgive Our Mothers.
  6. Did I post this one already? A woman is running across New York State in a wedding dress to bring attention to narcissistic abuse in marriage.
  7. Ending with your weekly reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads, and don’t forget to link up with this month’s An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom.

This week’s media? More Cinema Therapy! I love what they’re saying about Cap: integrity vs. ideology.

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 9Jul2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

How’s life’s flow for you these days? Maybe it’s time to find your rut-busting Beatitude. Image: Unsplash
  1. Laura Nelson writes at Catholic Mom about the value of suffering in Smooth Sailing or Rushing Waters.
  2. Here’s a sweet and hopeful story about… a story! High school sophomore publishes book on life with PTSD.
  3. Has anyone watched the EMDR interview with Prince Harry? I haven’t, and I’m curious.
  4. “Understanding the reasons doesn’t excuse the violence.” Could ending child abuse and promoting mental health stop mass shootings?
  5. St. Margaret of Castello is an inspiration, not just on living with disabilities but in living with the aftermath of parental abandonment. St. Margaret shows us where our true family lives and how to find them.
  6. Monica Portogallo at Catholic Mom reminds us that Even a mom conceived without sin can feel anxious.
  7. Ending with your weekly reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads, and don’t forget to link up with this month’s An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom.

This week’s media marks the end of my family’s annual Lord of the Rings marathon. The guys at Cinema Therapy talk about the life lessons we can gain from Samwise the Brave.

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 2Jul2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Are the waves in your life hitting you incessantly? Maybe it’s time to find your rut-busting Beatitude. Image: Unsplash
  1. Art heals. Shelter’s healing arts program supports survivors of domestic abuse.
  2. Childhood trauma survivors often live with a belief that they are irrelevant. “Relevant is not the same as current” is over at Catholic Mom.
  3. What is enmeshment, and do you experience it?
  4. Filling the void of a narcissistic parent
  5. Terry Crews talks about what happened when he got physical revenge on his abusive father.
  6. Real-time communication with real live humans is key to making sure our relationship with God does not suffer the vacuum of isolation. Colleen Mallette at Catholic Mom has Don’t Keep Your Doubts to Yourself.
  7. Ending with your weekly reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads, and don’t forget to link up with An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom on THIS WEDNESDAY, July 7.

This week’s media continues my celebration of my family’s annual Lord of the Rings marathon. The guys at Cinema Therapy talk about isolation vs. hope in Theoden King’s arc through The Two Towers.

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 25Jun2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Need to bloom where you’re planted? Maybe it’s time to find your rut-busting Beatitude. Image: Unsplash
  1. I had a chance to talk with Tracy with the OSV Webcast Author Series on Thursday, June 24. You can access that video here.
  2. Trauma is, by definition, suffering. Joe Heschmeyer is at OSV News with “Why should we rejoice in suffering?
  3. Do you know what love bombing is? Have you been love bombed? Signs you’re entangled with a narcissist.
  4. Life, especially early life, spent with narcissism can create a situation in us called “learned helplessness.” Good news: it’s not a life sentence.
  5. Carmen Lappe is at Catholic Mom with The Broken Plant Stand: A Reflection on Motherhood and Mental Health.
  6. Ginny Kochis also at Catholic Mom reminds us that Love Is Kind and Patient With You.
  7. Ending with the official announcement that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads, and don’t forget to link up with An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom for July 7.

This week’s media is another from Cinema Therapy. Every summer, once ALL our kids are done school, we do a Lord of the Rings movie marathon. Inspired by that tradition, here’s Radical Acceptance & Dealing With Hardship in The Fellowship of the Ring.

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 18Jun2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Feeling a little bit Ferris Wheel? May I suggest you find your rut-busting Beatitude? Image: Unsplash
  1. Father’s Day is this weekend. What a Father We Have in Saint Joseph!
  2. On that note, if you’re feeling tender and alone around Father’s Day, let’s be alone together. Join me tomorrow, Saturday, June 19 at 3pm Eastern US Time for a Google Meet: Dad’s Day Dessert Party. All emotions welcome. Email me for the join link.
  3. Trauma got you feeling like you have ADD? ADD got you feeling traumatized? Your feelings are–surprise!–valid, and science says so.
  4. I’m aware of the irony of someone giving you seven links to visit regarding trauma and toxic relationships, but here are 10 Signs of Toxic Self-awareness & How to Escape This Rabbit Hole.
  5. It’s a Lenten article, but as Catholics, we know how to find the Lent in Ordinary Time–or we know sometimes that Lent finds us no matter the liturgical season: Conversion Begins With Healing.
  6. Deanna Bartalini is at Catholic Mom with a great reminder: Our Children Are Not Our Own.
  7. Ending with the official announcement that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads, and don’t forget to link up with An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom for July 7.

For this week’s media, I invite you to listen to my discussion with Kim Cameron-Smith on the Gentle Catholic Parenting podcast.

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 11Jun2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Happy Feast of the Sacred Heart. Image: Unsplash
  1. Control can be a huge problem for trauma survivors. Caitlan Rangel at Catholic Mom reminds us Surrender Starts With Listening.
  2. Gotta love stories where people help others break free from abuse. Read here about one teen’s effort to help survivors escape domestic violence.
  3. Christina Mayeux talks about all the ways we can go to Joseph, model for husbands and families.
  4. Soooo much gaslighting happens in dysfunctional families. OSV Newsweekly has “What is truth?” A Lesson on Integrity for Children and Families.
  5. Struggle with anger? You are very much not alone. Read Jen Schuermann talk about The Night That God Took My Anger.
  6. Have you taken the quiz yet? Find your rut-busting Beatitude and get your free custom-chosen chapter of the book handily mentioned in the item below…
  7. Ending with a cheerful reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for preorder.

I also had the opportunity to do a Facebook Live with Catholic Mom about St. Joseph: Father to the Father-wounded. Watch at this link if the embed doesn’t show up below lol

https://fb.watch/625EsEzk9N/

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 4Jun2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Walking through this together. Image via via Unsplash.
  1. Chantal Howard has an AMAZING piece at Catholic Mom about how childhood trauma can so powerfully affect the afflicted’s ability to hear God’s voice that lives can be lost to suicide. Read her family’s powerful, painful, and yet hopeful and healing encounter with this tragedy at Suicide, Grief, and the Sonrise.
  2. More from Charlene Bader at Catholic Mom: Sorrow, Prophecy, & the Desire to Be Affirmed
  3. Verily has a piece on the tie between trauma and porn addiction.
  4. Did I already share this one? I may have, so forgive me for the re-share, and forgive me for not having Disney+ yet and thus not having seen WandaVision yet: Wanda Maximoff, Trauma, and the Power of Dissociation.
  5. If you’re looking for some validation, here ya go: Damage gone by emotionally immature parents can have a long term impact on children.
  6. Have you taken the quiz yet? Find your rut-busting Beatitude and get your free custom-chosen chapter of the book handily mentioned in the item below…
  7. Ending with a cheerful reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for preorder.

Let’s sign off with Father Mike Schmitz on Setting Boundaries for Yourself and Others.

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 28May2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Happy Memorial Day Weekend, US friends. Image via Unsplash.
  1. More from Charlene Bader in her series of the Seven Sorrows: Sorrow, Escape, and the Desire to Be Safe.
  2. Blessed Is She has piece from back in April (I know, I’m behind) on Finding and Fighting For Freedom From Addiction.
  3. Just because trauma and addiction feed each other, here’s another addiction-related bit: Nonprofit Uses Fitness to Help in Addiction Recovery.
  4. Divorce is considered an Adverse Childhood Experience. Are you familiar with ministry for adult children of divorce? Read here about Life-giving Wounds.
  5. I’m hopeful for the cultural shift that is putting resources into answering called-for emergencies with mental health help rather than police action.
  6. Have you taken the quiz yet? Find your rut-busting Beatitude and get your free custom-chosen chapter of the book handily mentioned in the item below…
  7. Ending with a cheerful reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for preorder.

Finally, ending with an audio file this week: Dr. Greg Bottaro of the Catholic Psych Institute has a great new podcast called Being Human. Here’s an episode I found very helpful: A Look at Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 21May2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Happy Pentecost Weekend Image via Unsplash.
  1. The ultimate trauma is loss of our earthly lives. All the things we do to avoid the fear of this inevitability, however, often lead us down paths to living deaths. Rebecca Martin is at Catholic Mom with fiction to help us: Reading Memento Mori.
  2. Another great installment in Charlene Bader’s series on Mary’s Seven Sorrows: Sorrow, Suffering, and the Desire to be Touched. She includes an acknowledgement towards those of us who have been more harmed than helped by touch in this life.
  3. A lot of trauma survivors use busyness as a maladaptive coping mechanism (this is me, raising my hand). Ginny Kochis gives us a great post in “You Aren’t Lazy: There’s No Shame is Rest.”
  4. “Blessed are the meek” means that God has blessings in store for those who know when to say no. Meg Hunter-Kilmer is at Alateia with Saints Who Had to Set Boundaries.
  5. Margaret Rose Realy has a poignant and brutally honest piece at Catholic Mom: Hoping to Attach to Our Mother of Hope.
  6. Have you taken the quiz yet? Find your rut-busting Beatitude and get your free custom-chosen chapter of the book handily mentioned in the item below…
  7. Ending with a cheerful reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for preorder.

It doesn’t want to embed here, but for this week’s audiovisual, I’m delighted to share with you my Facebook Live over at Catholic Mom, where I talked about Mary, Mother to the Mother-wounded.

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!