Here at Tomato Pie, we’re celebrating the release of my biblical historical fiction ebook “Working Mother” by celebrating the working mothers among us.
Today is the feast of St. Brigid of Ireland, so we’re interviewing another woman who finds herself having unexpected conversations in the name of Christ. Let’s meet Emily Borman!
What’s your name?
That one is easy, Emily Borman.
Tell us a little bit about your family.
I have been married for 27 years to my husband Bill and we have 3 children. Our daughter is our oldest. She just graduated from college in May and is pursuing a graduate degree in education while teaching 5th grade in FL. Next, is our son who is a junior in college; away from home. Last is our youngest son who is a senior in high school living at home with us in VA.
Imagine you’re at a dinner party. Someone asks the question, “So, what do you do?” What’s your answer?
I run a non-profit for Catholic women called Conversation with Women. Then depending on my company I would gage the look on their face and decide whether or not to continue. If there was any interest at all I would continue with,
It is a ministry that centers around a blog that consists of anonymous stories submitted by women who have struggled with Catholic teaching in the area of marriage, sexuality, and fertility but ultimately have found peace and joy by following church teaching.
If the person hasn’t walked away yet I might follow with:
The idea behind the blog is to:
- provide support and conversation for women who might not have like-minded friends to confide in, or might not be comfortable confiding in their friends.
2.provide kindling for real life conversations.
- give encouragement to any woman trying to live the faith…yes it can be difficult but it can be done and is worth it.
And then also, I am a part time barista and baker at Trinity House Café. It is a really cool coffee house run by the John Paul II Fellowship to promote Christian community and culture in the public square.
How do you think God uses your job to help shape you into all He made you to be?
Wow. This is a deep question. Conversation with Women has really required that I trust God. There are so many things that I have learned to do with the blog that I didn’t know I could do….but there was no one else to do it so I prayed and tried. I have fund raised, written press releases, designed the visual appearance of the blog, edited the blog, spoken to groups of women and learned about using social media. I need to start writing articles promoting the blog. That is what is next on my list. In all honesty I’m afraid that I might look foolish trying to write an article…but then I think of the parable of the talents and I think I better just try and do my best and leave the rest to God.
What benefits (besides the economical) have you seen to your family that are a direct result of your work away from home?
My work with Conversation with Women has always been flexible so at times it remains invisible from my family. My job as a barista and baker has helped me set some healthy limits and boundaries with my family. One example is that my son used to miss the bus 3 or 4 days a week. When he knows that I am not home to take him, he doesn’t miss the bus at all…nada…zero! I was so happy to see him step up to the plate like that…and also a little sheepish about realizing that I must be a push over to have been driving him to school so often.
How do you balance any guilty feelings you might have in the tension between your workplace and your homespace?
I usually pray. I’m never entirely confident that I am balancing responsibilities well. I pray about my motives…Do I really need to run out to the grocery store tonight to get that last ingredient so that what I bake tomorrow will be amazing (forfeiting family time for pride)? Or am I sincerely trying to do His will? I pray for His will, not mine, and for His priorities, not mine.
What is one thing that you would ask the people in your life to do to support you more?
I need to work on this. The thing about part-time work is that you can arrange it so that the rest of your life does not change much. Over Christmas I realized that I have done that to a fault. I have added an 18 hour commitment to my life but I am still trying to do everything I used to do. It’s not working. I have been feeling the stress lately. So I guess that I could use some help in figuring out what I need to drop from my list in order to be at peace.
Thank you, Emily!
Are you a working mother? So was (and is) the Blessed Mother! If you enjoyed this interview and would like to celebrate working motherhood some more, please consider getting a copy of my $.99 historical fiction ebook, “Working Mother.”