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7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 15Oct2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Looking for a sign? Maybe it’s time to find your cycle-breaking Beatitude. Image: Unsplash
  1. Ginny Kochis has gold at Catholic Mom: 4 Things No One Tells You About Therapy.
  2. While I didn’t have memory flushing myself, I can definitely relate to fellow trauma survivor Melissa Presser’s piece at Catholic Mom on God’s Plan A.
  3. I know I’ve been a part of the culture of labeling people “toxic,” but I’m trying to get away from that, because… dang, everybody deserves hope. Here’s a piece at Verywell Mind about what to do if you suspect you may have Narcissistic Personality Disorder–because there are people with NPD who do recognize that they are the cause of their own suffering but just. can’t. stop.
  4. “The way I was treated by police was worse.” More on why people don’t report abuse.
  5. Helping traumatized children in the here and now is a thing. Janelle Peregoy is at Catholic Mom with 7 Ways to Support Foster Families.
  6. I’m hoping to catch The Starling. Sr. Nancy Usselman has a review at Catholic Mom.
  7. Ending with your weekly reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads, and don’t forget to link up with this month’s An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom.

This week’s media: Have you been called difficult for not taking the narcissist’s bait? I sure have…

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 8Oct2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Is it time for change? Maybe it’s time to find your cycle-breaking Beatitude. Image: Unsplash
  1. Have I shared this one yet? How toxic parenting can lead to sibling warfare.
  2. Trauma robs us of the riches God intended for us as his image-bearers. Trauma impoverishes us. Poverty traumatizes. Roxane Salonen is at Catholic Mom with When We, or Someone We Love, Are the Poor.
  3. Childhood trauma seen as determinant of health in neurology.
  4. More on that channel: Child abuse and neglect linked to early mortality.
  5. “[O]ur internal compass doesn’t point toward love, it ‘points toward home.’ Ouch.” Here’s how TikTok taught me that I’m a narcissist enabler.
  6. The connection between trauma and addiction
  7. Ending with your weekly reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads, and don’t forget to link up with this month’s An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom.

This week’s media: Filled With Good’s beta team starts the course this week. Part of Week 1 is My Food Story. Watch here:

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 1Oct2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Is it time for change? Maybe it’s time to find your cycle-breaking Beatitude. Image: Unsplash
  1. Working on Filled With Good: Theology of the Body for Food Addicts (apply for a spot on the beta team at this link), and I came across this one: The Adverse Childhood Experiences Study — the largest, most important public health study you never heard of — began in an obesity clinic.
  2. Even if you’re past the toddler tantrum stage, you still may be experiencing (or letting loose with) the less obvious kinds of tantrums & meltdowns. “Ask the pediatrician: How can parents deal with children’s tantrums” goes way beyond the usual “how to derail your child’s emotional train” into the things children need from their parents outside of their tantrum time.
  3. I was so excited to see @mentalhealness on TikTok featured in this article, “Self-confessed narcissist exposes inner thoughts of an emotional abuser.
  4. Echo News out of Australia has an article on emotional abuse, “Loved ones cut the deepest.”
  5. Well, what a surprise! It turns out subsidiarity (helping parents so they can help & bond with their children) is more effective than rounding up kids without their parents and trying to fix them! What a concept! How Parents Can Find Their Strength and Resillience.
  6. “Why didn’t you report this abuse?” Here’s why: Olympic Athletes’ Testimonies Show Why Rape Victims Don’t Trust Police.
  7. Ending with your weekly reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads, and don’t forget to link up with this month’s An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom.

For this week’s media, I’m sharing a recent find: What happens when someone with an untreated personality disorder becomes a grandparent?

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 24Sep2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

How much of a bridge do you have in your life to walk across the waters? Maybe it’s time to find your cycle-breaking Beatitude. Image: Unsplash
  1. Yours Truly has a piece over at OSV Newsweekly: The poverty that breaks the cycle of abuse.
  2. California has a prisons project that’s teaching inmates about how trauma leads to dangerous choices–including the choices that landed them behind bars. Read about it here.
  3. Dysfunctional families tend to develop unhealthy roles and conflict between siblings. In case you haven’t noticed, Catholic Mom has been such a resource to me for teaching me how to be a healthier parent. Sheri Wohlfert has an article there on sibling rivalry.
  4. I don’t know about you, but when I see justice being served in the interests of kids who have been abused at the hands of denying, deflecting, selfish adults, something inside of me heals. If that kind of thing helps you, here’s an article (no real gory details, thankfully) about two little girls standing up to their father’s abuse and bringing him to justice through their courage and persistence: Father convicted of molesting daughters.
  5. On that note, do you know about Bikers Against Child Abuse? They’re an organization that helps support kids who are bringing their abusers to justice. A. Ma. Zing. I love, love, LOVE BACA! Whenever I need to have hope in humanity, I visit their site.
  6. About a year ago, a recovery friend called me, and when I picked up the phone, she said, “So I know we’re not Jewish–” My response, “I don’t know what you’re going to say next, but this is the best start to a phone call I’ve ever had.” I’ve had some pretty deep encounters with Jewish culture through family & friends from earliest childhood, so it’s no surprise this article from The Jerusalem Post on sukkot as the PTSD holiday really reached somewhere deep inside of me. “Slaves who built for others now build for themselves.”
  7. Ending with your weekly reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads, and don’t forget to link up with this month’s An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom.

For this week’s media, let’s look at what Dr. Ramani says about the truthteller/scapegoat role. This one stung like good medicine.

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 17Sep2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Are you ripening… or so afraid of surrendering to harvest that you’re kinda sorta rotting? Maybe it’s time to find your rut-busting Beatitude. Image: Unsplash
  1. Verwell Mind has some intriguing bits to share about the emerging science of intergenerational trauma and epigenetics.
  2. “The beautiful thing about praying with Mary through her sorrows is that we realize we are not alone in ours.” MaryBeth Eberhard is at Catholic Mom with Opening Our Hearts.
  3. “Among the book’s key takeaways, the researchers found that… 70 percent had previously experienced childhood trauma.” I mean… surprise? How to Stop School Shooter Violence.
  4. Many of us struggle with thinking we have to do it all and do it perfectly–leading to overwhelm. Lisa Simmons is at Catholic Mom with God Bless My Drunk Squirrels: a Lesson in Letting Go and Letting God.
  5. Many trauma survivors & mental health warriors battle insomnia. Rachel Watkins is at Catholic Mom with Sleeping Well.
  6. Maria Gallagher at Catholic Mom writes about riding the wave of our emotions in Are You There, God?
  7. Ending with your weekly reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads, and don’t forget to link up with this month’s An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom.

For this week’s media, I’m delighted to share my chat with Rachel at To Grow Good, a podcast devoted to sharing the faith through conversion & reversion stories.

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 10Sep2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Are you blooming or maybe going into dormancy? Is one better than the other? Maybe it’s time to find your rut-busting Beatitude. Image: Unsplash
  1. I mean, surprise? Adverse childhood experiences can contribute to drug use.
  2. Gentleness is a virtue that tends to be in short supply in families affected by abuse and dysfunction. Catholic Mom’s Marlon De La Torre has a lovely piece on The Gentleness of Conversion.
  3. Here’s an interesting piece on boundaries: At what point does PTSD become an excuse for bad behavior?
  4. “‘The combination of negative emotions – exacerbated by stressors such as poverty, unresolved trauma and mental health issues — ‘leaves the home and enters the streets looking like violence,’ said Kennedy.” Read more at Catholic Philly’s piece on Data needed to find the core of rising violence in Philadelphia.
  5. “And, yet, even when we push kids out of school — or politicians out of office — they never really disappear. They still are a part of our communities, impacting others and themselves.” Read more at Disruptive students often facing challenges at home and communities deserve acts of reparative justice.
  6. Rejection is trauma. Catholic Mom’s Holly Novotny writes about Uniting Our Rejection With Christ’s.
  7. Ending with your weekly reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads, and don’t forget to link up with this month’s An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom.

I’m trying to shy away from using the word “toxic” describe people and am loving using the more accurate and hopeful (I believe) immature to describe some people with harmful patterns of behavior. Thus, for this week’s media, here’s Dr. Les Carter.

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 27Aug2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Are you ripening… or so afraid of surrendering to harvest that you’re kinda sorta rotting? Maybe it’s time to find your rut-busting Beatitude. Image: Unsplash
  1. Lara Patangan of Catholic Mom and Simple Mercies writes about one of my favorite, most life-giving topics: boundaries.
  2. So here’s a fun one: Do Wild Animals Get PTSD?
  3. Codependency & Self-Care asks “What if the people pleaser is the self that needs to die?”
  4. The Undone Mama reminds us about how toxic parents turn into toxic grandparents: if they are toxic to you, they are toxic to your kids.
  5. Catholic In Recovery’s Chloe writes about How Saint Joseph Is Healing My Father Wound.
  6. We have a good number of new subscribers lately (::waves::), so here’s a pretty concise, informative piece on The Narcissistically Disordered Family. Does any of this resonate with your experience?
  7. Ending with your weekly reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads, and don’t forget to link up with this month’s An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom.

For this week’s media, let’s see what we can learn about… eyebrows?

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 3Sep2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Are you blooming or maybe going into dormancy? Is one better than the other? Maybe it’s time to find your rut-busting Beatitude. Image: Unsplash
  1. My dear Christine Johnson is at Catholic Mom talking about “Jesus, I trust in You… sort of.”
  2. We all know narcissism is bad. Alas, just doing the opposite of the narcissists in your life wreaks is own havoc. Here’s an article at Your Tango on Echoism.
  3. Imposter Syndrome is fancy pants talk for “I have to be enough.” Lindsay Schlege of Quote Me wrote the linked article over at Catholic Mom.
  4. Trauma brings changes, to say the least. Hillary Ibara is at Catholic Mom talking about Christ’s Mercy.
  5. I regularly hear from people, “My story isn’t like yours, but I can relate to [fill in the blank with some maladaptive coping mechanism].” Well, maybe trauma doesn’t look the way you expect it to, and maybe its effects manifest in ways you overlook.
  6. Carmen Lappe is at Catholic Mom with a story so many trauma survivors can relate to in a special way: Can Anger Be Virtuous?
  7. Ending with your weekly reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads, and don’t forget to link up with this month’s An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom.

For this week’s media, I’m sharing my chat with Anne DeSantis of Patchwork Hear Ministry’s Sewing Hope podcast!

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 20Aug2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Is how you are moving your body contributing to your mental health and overall freedom? Maybe it’s time to find your rut-busting Beatitude. Image: Unsplash
  1. More admiration, love and support to fellow Catholic trauma survivor Simone Biles: Leticia Adams writes at OSV News about Simone Biles, mental health, and the path to true discipleship.
  2. Another one (because, dang, Simone–you teach us so much!): What Simone Biles Allowed Me to Teach My Daughter by Teri Sinnott at Catholic Mom.
  3. On that note, here’s something on How to talk about your mental health with your employer.
  4. Trauma survivors… we all carry all kinds of burdens. Catholic Mom’s Jessica Ptomey shares her article Check Your Burdens.
  5. Surrender troubles? Here are four steps to achieving surrender (I’d add a fifth: think of something else–and if you can’t, ask God to give you a new thought) from Laura Range at Catholic Mom.
  6. Parenting teens triggers a LOT of abandonment fears/behaviors in developmental trauma survivors (ask me how I know). Here’s another article on the “thou shalts” rather than just the “thou shalt nots” of parenting teens: Sherry Antonetti’s Helping Your Teens to Know God’s Love at Catholic Mom.
  7. Ending with your weekly reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads, and don’t forget to link up with this month’s An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom.

For this week’s media, I’m sharing my chat with Anne DeSantis of Patchwork Hear Ministry’s Sewing Hope podcast!

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!

7QT for Catholic Trauma Survivors 30Jul2021

Here’s me, doing my bit to participate weekly in Kelly’s Seven Quick Takes over at This Ain’t the Lyceum.

So here’s…

This Week’s Resources for Catholic Trauma Survivors

Takes. Best described as quick. Seven of them.

Is how you are moving your body contributing to your mental health and overall freedom? Maybe it’s time to find your rut-busting Beatitude. Image: Unsplash
  1. Couldn’t go this week without sending tons and tons of love and support to fellow Catholic trauma survivor Simone Biles. “You want your mind for the rest of your life.”
  2. Those of us who fear that we are angrier than God is about ways others have sinned against us might find some healing in reading Hezekiah’s prayer as a model for us.
  3. Speaking of anger, Rachel Bulman is talking at Catholic Mom about a new book that helps families deal with anger.
  4. Seeing a theme here? Catholic Mom has books for the girl mom on yelling.
  5. I got to talk with Carrie Soukoup on Catholic Mom’s weekly IG Live. We chatted about honoring the needs of our teens and tweens when we ourselves are recovering from childhood trauma. Watch to find out what that has to do with Parenting Tombs and Gardens.
  6. Read at Catholic Mom on how His Gaze Heals Me.
  7. Ending with your weekly reminder that All Things New: Breaking the Cycle and Raising a Joyful Family is available for purchase. Already read your copy? Leave a review on Amazon and/or Goodreads, and don’t forget to link up with this month’s An Open Book from Carolyn Astfalk & Catholic Mom.

For this week’s media, I wanted to share a bit of a victory I experienced this week–one I turned into a TikTok, hopefully for your enjoyment or at least for the relatability.

And now go give Kelly and her 7QTs a look see!